I’ve always been a fan of the philosophy that people are mirrors, and what ticks you off, or “lights you up,” is actually something that you need to look at in yourself. Byron Katie’s book Loving What Is, (2002, New York: Three Rivers Press) takes that philosophy to the next level.
I picked this book up before, wanting a fast read, and the samples slowed me down. Really, I guess I just wasn’t ready for it. This time through, the samples helped me understand how to use the process. Without them, I think I would have had more trouble.
There are four questions that you ask when you come across a charged issue: (1) Is it true? (2) Can you absolutely know that its true? (3) How do you react when you think that thought? and (4) Who would you be without that thought?
In the book, additional supporting questions help take you through a process to turn things around, and look at the issue in different ways. Once you can do that, you can make choices to let some of the thoughts that keep you mired in discontent go, and in the process, change. Works for me! Highly recommended!!