Although I loved Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Eat Pray Love, I avoided this one but somehow it still found it’s way on my shelf (Penguin, 2010). And when I did open it up I was tired and cranky and read with an attitude of resistance.
It was the chapter on Mothers that engaged me, and from then until the end of the book I loved it. So to be fair, I think the first part of the book is wonderful as well, as long as you give it a fair chance.
In fact it was so good, it made me feel better about some of the choices I’ve made in my life, as well as understanding the resistance I have to being committed again.
But this is her story . . . and it’s about Felipe, her Brazilian love, and how they settled in the United States together, committed to each other with their own personal ceremony since each had been divorced and were skeptical of marriage.
Both Felipe’s and Gilbert’s jobs were in the United States, and after a trip abroad, Felipe was deported, and would not be allowed back in the country unless they married. Formally and legally.
Gilbert and Felipe then went back overseas to wait it out while Felipe’s case was being settled, since they couldn’t be together otherwise, and Gilbert’s story expands from their personal situation to the societal and personal benefits and hazards of the institution of marriage and how she comes to terms with her decision to marry again.
For anyone married, divorced, or getting married (just about everyone over a certain age . . . .) or anyone skeptical or confused, this book paves the way to understanding one of our most profound and life changing customs. And I recommend it! I do, really I do . . .